Thursday, April 23, 2015
Are you ready for another exciting Continue-the-Courtship night?
Try these ideas when you're looking for a couple of hours away from the children for some sacred time:
* Take the kids to Grandma and Grandpa - they remember those days, and are usually eager to have some quality time with the grandkids.
* Make friends with other couples in your ward who have small children. Arrange to swap babysitting.
* Put the kids to bed early - baby monitors work great when you need some time alone.
* Put out some snacks and games, or the kids' favorite movie. Again, a baby monitor works great here. If they get too quiet, peek in on them from time to time.
For your couple time:
Each of you make up an 'erotic' story to try and turn on your spouse, and tell it to each other. No more than three paragraphs long. You can write it out and read it to each other, or just make it up and tell it to each other if you prefer.
Then you take turns writing a 'romantic' story for your spouse, based on what they like.
You are each the romantic leads. Choose an exotic time and place. Describe the emotions when you meet, and how your relationship builds.
Yes, husbands- don't get bent out of shape if you're bored by her ideas of 'romance'. Include lots of parts about what the couple in your fantasy talk about (family, home, travel, dreams), and include how the couple build a relationship together and the things he does to win her trust. Avoid gratuitous sexuality, and work or chore-related topics. Do include lots of kissing and caressing in the story. Women need help channeling their thoughts to the sexual part of their brain.
Wives - Men are not often turned on by relationship stories. You might as well try to turn him on by reading the dictionary to him. Men have a direct line to their sexual brain. The story you write for him should have at least one very graphic sexual encounter, described in great detail with body parts and heaving breaths - this activity is not immoral if it's something created and kept sacred between the two of you, and not shared with others. Keep the story in the context of the two of you. Don't involve strangers, real or imagined. This also keeps it in the sacred realm.
Wives, your guy may not have a talent for storytelling, but affirm him for any effort he gives. If he makes it too sexual for your comfort, listen to what he is adding. This may give you a clue into what he would like in your love- making with him. What he is describing may be 'romantic' to him. Give him validation for what he does right, and gently let him know what kinds of things you would prefer to hear in your fantasy.
Creating and telling him a story can give him an idea of your preferences as well. Not a bad thing.
Most importantly, don't take it too seriously. Relax, play with it, and have fun!